Comments on: To Love Or Be Loved http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/ Thoughts on life and the mundane Sun, 13 Dec 2009 00:27:37 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Ali http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-738 Ali Tue, 18 Mar 2008 14:54:26 +0000 http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-738 We need to be loved or else why do we keep seraching for it. In the begining of the statement you said that love doesnt exist in your life, but you do love certain things in life. just as your cat, your firends, the spring;) But when the damn arrow hits us then khalas, u just fall in love, and love does take us to places we havent been there before. It lifts up, and it brings us down We need to be loved or else why do we keep seraching for it. In the begining of the statement you said that love doesnt exist in your life, but you do love certain things in life. just as your cat, your firends, the spring;) But when the damn arrow hits us then khalas, u just fall in love, and love does take us to places we havent been there before. It lifts up, and it brings us down

]]> By: ph http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-730 ph Mon, 17 Mar 2008 14:55:35 +0000 http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-730 I really think that the need or the crave for love is always there. However, after our first experience (which usually takes a form of a very callow relationship, during our adolescence) we are normally hurt. And thus, we start redefining our perceptions on love. Add to this, that TV shows, Valentine's, sappy love songs, etc. all have contributed a great deal to commercialize love. So many of us (myself included) start throwing stones at love. Humans naturally tend to knock down things that may have resulted in creating unpleasant experiences as a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from falling for the same mistake again. We start referring to ourselves as cynics, just because we do not subscribe to the commercialized view of love, although deep down we believe in it. I've found that cynicism has little to do with love to be frank. I've found that some people who find it hard to be with someone, or do not buy into the concept start referring to themselves as cynics. However, not being naive (and thus not believing in this teenage romantic view of love), does not qualify as being a cynic; get my drift? What I'm trying to say that the word cynic takes a more intellectual angle rather than an emotional one. Anyway, just thought of finally stopping by and leaving a comment! Keep it up Shalabieh. I really think that the need or the crave for love is always there. However, after our first experience (which usually takes a form of a very callow relationship, during our adolescence) we are normally hurt. And thus, we start redefining our perceptions on love. Add to this, that TV shows, Valentine’s, sappy love songs, etc. all have contributed a great deal to commercialize love. So many of us (myself included) start throwing stones at love. Humans naturally tend to knock down things that may have resulted in creating unpleasant experiences as a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from falling for the same mistake again.

We start referring to ourselves as cynics, just because we do not subscribe to the commercialized view of love, although deep down we believe in it. I’ve found that cynicism has little to do with love to be frank. I’ve found that some people who find it hard to be with someone, or do not buy into the concept start referring to themselves as cynics. However, not being naive (and thus not believing in this teenage romantic view of love), does not qualify as being a cynic; get my drift? What I’m trying to say that the word cynic takes a more intellectual angle rather than an emotional one.

Anyway, just thought of finally stopping by and leaving a comment! Keep it up Shalabieh.

]]> By: Ala http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-717 Ala Wed, 12 Mar 2008 21:30:21 +0000 http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-717 Everyone must have loved and have been loved, the thing is we might be inside it but never notice, or have some self neural programming effect from bad experiences in the past that acts like a vaccine against emotional driven reactions. What I want to say is, love is a mysterious mixture of feelings that comes from both personal needs and chemicals with some help of a subconscious retrieving of memories. All of that makes the initial trigger for love called crush or attraction, then love is exactly what we do next. I believe that love is an action that we decide to take based on the emotions starting as a mandatory crush or attraction. I choose to be loved, because then I can decide to go for love actions as a response when I can overcome the vaccine effect with less risk fears. Everyone must have loved and have been loved, the thing is we might be inside it but never notice, or have some self neural programming effect from bad experiences in the past that acts like a vaccine against emotional driven reactions.
What I want to say is, love is a mysterious mixture of feelings that comes from both personal needs and chemicals with some help of a subconscious retrieving of memories. All of that makes the initial trigger for love called crush or attraction, then love is exactly what we do next. I believe that love is an action that we decide to take based on the emotions starting as a mandatory crush or attraction.
I choose to be loved, because then I can decide to go for love actions as a response when I can overcome the vaccine effect with less risk fears.

]]> By: Ali http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-716 Ali Wed, 12 Mar 2008 21:04:17 +0000 http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-716 Oh forgot to mention...Love sucks! Life sucks, so we need to get over it and move on with our lives....this is from someone who just got out of a long relation Oh forgot to mention…Love sucks! Life sucks, so we need to get over it and move on with our lives….this is from someone who just got out of a long relation

]]> By: Jasim http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-713 Jasim Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:33:21 +0000 http://shalabieh.wordpress.com/2008/03/12/to-love-or-be-loved/#comment-713 To love. To love.

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